Secondly, loyalty is also crucial for it has something to do with morality. I think every one of us must make it clear about what we are supposed to do and what we are not. No matter what the reason of not being loyal, it will only bring sadness to the relationship because there won't be trust anymore. The relationship will either come to an end or made one of them choose to live in tolerance. As we all know, a relationship maintained by only one side can never go far and it will soon disappear if both sides no longer trust each other.
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What do you think is the most important thing for the husband and wife in their marriage? (The Joy Luck Club)
What do you think is the most important thing for the husband and wife in their marriage?
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From my perspective, not love, not trust, not loyalty, but acceptance is the most momentous and indispensable thing in marriage.
Accepting and embracing our partner as they are, in all their spectacular humanness, matters a lot.
There is a time in every relationship where all the quirks that we found so cute and adorable during our first year of courtship become annoying, such as the way they clear their throat or have to have their butter spread "just so" on their piece of toast, or how they must only have their dressing on the side, never directly on their salad, etc.Whereas, acceptance of these trivial things is essential for a long-lasting relationship. No one is perfect, but hopefully all the wonderful things about our partner outweigh the less-wonderful, otherwise, we wouldn't be with them, right?
So when our partner starts showing us just how human, plain and ordinary they are, just keep on loving them unconditionally and ardently.
One of the stories mentioned in the film "Joy Luck Club", which reversely proves this fact, is Lena's story, in which Lena was married to Harold. Their marriage was indeed a love marriage and they thought that they love each other enough to marry each other, but after a few years of marriage, it suddenly struck them that what they thought was love, really was nothing more than a dream, which didn't lasted very long. They had conflicts and fights developed among themselves in a hysterical manner that drove them to a sticky end, where they could't seek other way out, except for divorce. Their marriage fell apart, because they didn't shower each other with intrinsic acceptance, which is a firm bond that ties husbands and wives together.
By and large, I would like to conclude with a quote from Elizabeth Gilbert: "To be fully seen by somebody, then, and be loved anyhow--this is a human offering that can border on miraculous." -
From my perspective, not love, not trust, not loyalty, but acceptance is the most momentous and indispensable thing in marriage.
Accepting and embracing our partner as they are, in all their spectacular humanness, matters a lot.
There is a time in every relationship where all the quirks that we found so cute and adorable during our first year of courtship become annoying, such as the way they clear their throat or have to have their butter spread "just so" on their piece of toast, or how they must only have their dressing on the side, never directly on their salad, etc.Whereas, acceptance of these trivial things is essential for a long-lasting relationship. No one is perfect, but hopefully all the wonderful things about our partner outweigh the less-wonderful, otherwise, we wouldn't be with them, right?
So when our partner starts showing us just how human, plain and ordinary they are, just keep on loving them unconditionally and ardently.
One of the stories mentioned in the film "Joy Luck Club", which reversely proves this fact, is Lena's story, in which Lena was married to Harold. Their marriage was indeed a love marriage and they thought that they love each other enough to marry each other, but after a few years of marriage, it suddenly struck them that what they thought was love, really was nothing more than a dream, which didn't lasted very long. They had conflicts and fights developed among themselves in a hysterical manner that drove them to a sticky end, where they could't seek other way out, except for divorce. Their marriage fell apart, because they didn't shower each other with intrinsic acceptance, which is a firm bond that ties husbands and wives together.
By and large, I would like to conclude with a quote from Elizabeth Gilbert: "To be fully seen by somebody, then, and be loved anyhow--this is a human offering that can border on miraculous." -
I think the most important thing in marriage is the love between husband and wife.I may not marry the one I love, but I definitely won’t marry the one I don’t love. If I’m in love with someone, I want him to be happy. I would naturally respect his every choice and take shared responsibility. When faced with conflicts, I will use communication to solve them, rather than escape or vent my dissatisfaction. What’s more, if there is a child, he or she will group up with such loving parents, and will gradually develop these good qualities and have a healthy mind.
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I think the most important thing for the husband and wife in their marriage is mutual respect, which I think is the foundation of any relationships. Because in a marriage, couples may have some different ideas and make different decisions due to different values, family background, and other factors, in which case, mtual respect is indispensible.
I think mutual respect in marriage means accepting the values of each other, giving each other some private space, and respecting each other's way of life. If a couple are lack of respect, the result of their marrige often ends in conflict or destruction.
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I think the most important thing in marriage is respect and independence.
Marriage means that two people break away from the original family to form a new family. It also means that they become the closest person, but it does not mean that they can request others according to their own rules. At the same time, they should not give up their principles to cater to others. Otherwise, it's like losing your soul and becoming someone else's accessory.
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I think the most important thing forthe husband and wife in a marriage is adequate communication. If there is no communication, there will gradually be some inevitable conflicts between the two parties, and eventually the relationship between the two people will weaken, even estrangement. Husbands and wives must communicate their true thoughts to each other. Only by understanding what the other is thinking can each party act in a way that fully considers the other's feelings. Only when you clearly express your thoughts and needs can the efforts of a relationship not be wasted.
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In my humble opinion, I think the most important thing in marriage is the ability and willing to support each other.
First of all, compared with love, marriage is more complex and requires a more solid material foundation, which cannot be provided by only one person in the marriage. If only the wife or the husband works hard for the family, it will lead to inequality in the family status. Certainly, devoting for the family doesn't mean you have to have a job in society. Being a housewife or a househusband is also a way of running a family.
Secondly, the economic base determines the superstructure. There is a good reason why nothing goes well to a destitute couple. Sometimes, even if the current situation of the family is not that good, if the couple can work together for a better tomorrow, the feelings between them and what they mean to each other will be sublimated in this process.
Therefore, I believe that the help between husband and wife can create a more positive family atmosphere, a more solid economic base and promote loyalty and trust between them, which can make their meaning to each other irreplaceable.
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In my opinion, the most important thing in marriage is love and understanding. I think most of the time the support and encouragement of the family will give you great strength, so when you know that someone loves you firmly you will feel confident. What's more, when you are with each other, understanding can help avoid a lot of meaningless arguments and boost happiness.
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I think the most important thing between husband and wife is trust and loyalty to each other.
Only on this basis can two people live a harmonious life, and there will be fewer misunderstandings and unnecessary quarrels. Each person is not an independent person, and such couples give each other support and strength.
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I believe that the most important factor in keeping a stable marriage is mutual tolerance and consideration between couples.
First of all, being in a marriage is essentially different from being in a relationship. It is a combination of two families, so the couple probably has disparate living habits. It's a necessity for them to tolerate each other not only in the crucial decision but also in daily chores.
Additionally, marriage needs a sense of freshness and humor though it is a symbol of love and responsibility. The appropriate tricks have their place which acts as a lubricant.
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I think the most important thing between husband and wife is communication. In present society, everyone wants their own space and time, so do couples. If both people just enjoy their own time at the end of the busy day at work, communication will be less and less. Most conflicts and misunderstandings result from lack of communication. They don’t know each other’s likes and ideas. Life will be full of conflicts and misunderstanding. In the end, their relationship will breakdown, and they will become the most familiar strangers and roommates in the same house. Everyone is growing all the time and their inner thoughts and preferences are changing. The relationship between husband and wife will be more stable only when they communicate and understand each other.
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I think the most important thing in marriage between husband and wife is communication and equality. Through communication, most of conflicts between the couple will be solved. Also, if one of the couple think his degree or position is better than the other so that he has a condescending attitude, lots of quarrel and disharmony will come.
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I thougnt it's the communication between the wife and husband. I think effective communition can solve 90 percents of the problems in a marriage.
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I think the most important thing in marriage are respect and communication.
First of all, a good marriage relationship needs two people to maintain together, both sides need to devote for each other. In this case, the two people are on equal status, should respect each other, neither can take each other's pay for granted, nor excessively lower their own attitude to beg for love. Just like Li Na in the movie, it is obvious that her husband is mean and selfish. He only wants to exploit her value without any respect for her. Such a marriage is not worth maintaining. If she gives up, there must be someone better to cherish her.
In addition, communication is also very important. Marriage is not always smooth sailing, many times, we can not fully understand the words and actions of others, misunderstandings and arguments often result from this. Without good communication, marriages can fall apart. Just like Rose and Ted in the movie, they are still in love with each other, but they are almost separated due to the lack of communication, because they don't really communicate and understand each other's demands.
So, I think respect and communication are of vital importance.
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I think respect is the most important things in a wonderful marriage.
Respect is essential to a harmony marriage because espect means equality, understanding. Some people in a marriage take their patner's devotion for granted, so they seldom show gratitude to their patner. Actually, in a harmony marriage, each of the couple need to respect their partner's devotion whatever the form is. Money, a clean house, a table very rich food, they all needs energy, they all should be respected.
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After watching the movie, I think the most important thing in a husband-wife relationship is equality, communication and love. First of all, equality. Equality is not the unfair equality like Lena and her husband’s spliting the bill, but it is the equality in personality of the parties. Everyone should recognize their own value, do not feel that the other person is more important than yourself, and do not put yourself down for them. Be yourself. Secondly, communication. Most of the time, communication is a key to solve the misunderstanding and contradiction. Communication allows us to express what we want, and it also allows us to understand what the other person wants, and then figure out how to solve the problem. And last but not least, love. Love is an integral part of a marriage. A marriage without love can hardly be happy. Just like Lena and her husband, I could not see the existence of love between them, and the love ended up in the end.
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I think loyalty is the most important thing that determines a marriage. No matter how bad your marriage is, maybe there are some intractable problems between you and your husband or your wife. Remember that you have the right to end a bad marriage, to end everything. But loyalty, is something like one of the principles of your life. It is more in contact with your own life. We all know that marriage is a couple matter. But in marriage, you should also keep being yourself. Never break the moral bottom line. Your marriage can be lost, but you shouldn't make yourself a loser.
And if you keep your loyalty, maybe some problem between you and your marriage can be resolved by the time.
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I think the most important thing between husband and wife is to respect. We should respect each other as well as ourselves.
Because of love, a young man and woman finally get together and become husband and wife. Their married life will face various problems for both husband and wife, which may eventually hurt both husband and wife. Like Rose and Ted. Rose gradually lost herself after marriage. She didn't respect herself and faced up to her needs, which made Ted tired. They once walked to the edge of divorce. Another example is YingYing and her first husband. Her husband doesn't respect her and humiliates her by bringing the singer to her home. Finally Yingying drowned her child and fled the family.
In short, husband and wife should know how to love and respect each other and themselves.
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I think the most important thing in marriage is to understand each other. Many people are immature when they are not married, and even if they are married, they cannot grow up in an instant. Many people still think from their own point of view and do not put themselves in others' shoes. This is exactly what kills a marriage. If a marriage can work, it needs two people to understand each other. If not, marriage is doomed. Because marriage doesn't bring anything anymore.
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